Village, Community, or Tribe
This topic is so important and close to my heart that I revisit it in my latest podcast episode.
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During the pandemic, we did a podcast on finding your tribe with my friend Nancy Treder, fellow working mom and girlfriend of over 13 yrs. We talked about having good people around us that we can rely on for emotional support as well as help with raising our kids I'll link episode that podcast in the show notes. I’ve had other moms, entrepreneurs, clients, girlfriends and trainers that have walked beside me as I went through rough patches and celebrated great milestones. During my fitness competition I gravitated towards competitors that were working parents that had a healthy balance in fitness life and making healthy foods for my family . My community provided the has given me the best advice and held space for my mistakes, and nurtured me when I needed some love. I grew up with tough love, so I tended to be a more demanding of my self and got good at compartmentalizing. I don’t have family in Seattle, so I’ve built relationships here with people who have become my family. I’m very grateful for them- and for you! I most recently traveled to the Bahamas and was reminded of how blessed I am. My village and community came through once more!
My husband's mother came to town so stay with Sofia while we were gone. We chose to have kids later in life, so as some of you know, we have aging parents that can’t really drive or take on all the responsibilities of caring for our high school senior who’s hardly home, an independent, strong-willed first grader, and a not to mention sick pup at home with a list of medications to take on a schedule. That in itself can deter me from traveling! But our marriage and time together is important, so I have learned to ask for what I need: help. I’m not shy about it either. I have been through enough to teach me that I don't have to do it all.
While we were gone, our next door neighbors walked our dog, Earl, in the morning. Another neighbor took Sofia to and from school. Other friends were on site working on the studio construction and checked up on and walked Earl in the afternoon. They would even send us photos to ease our worries. My girlfriend, Veronica, picked up Sofia and took her to the bouldering project for weekly class. And another neighbor, Annie, checked on grandma's mental health during the week. Grandma does not drive or text, so we got Sofia set up on the iPad to be able to communicate, under supervision. Thank God for technology when it works like this!
So you see friends, it works if you are willing to give and receive. Your tribe is the community you make. It is the village that helps raise your kids. When our neighbors moved away, it was devastating; our kids have known each other since birth to 7yrs. But how we make plans to see each other and keep our connection strong. They are just a call, text, or post card away and now zoom meeting.
When our new neighbors moved in, I took them a bottle of wine and some food to welcome them to the neighborhood. I also gave them my number and said, “If you see my daughter or my dog out walking themselves, please call me!” We watch each other’s houses, celebrate milestones, and take care of each other's kids.
I thank you for the bottom of mi corazon. If you do not know how reach out or ask for help, it ok hear my story and how I learned how and I'm always integrating new people.
I grew up in a large Mexican family of 11- that was my first community. Coming from a different generation, and having parents who didn't finish high school, My mother's teaching for us was that finishing high school and getting married, those were the goals to aspire to. "Marry a man that will take care of you," I detoured from that advice as watched my mother in her third marriage, still struggling to survive. Most of my siblings are on their 2 and 3rd marriages. I was the youngest, and I had a different take on life and always challenged the status quo. Sometimes what were are taught does not fit us anymore. We as people evolve and grow. I moved out at 14 yrs old. I had a great community of social workers and friends that found me a place to live and gave me emotional support. I saw in them the lives and love I wanted. They had a purpose is seeing me successed!
I realized I had to leave the small town I was from to have better choices. It took courage to make new decisions. My mother didn't her talk for me for 3 years. So I spent a lot of time aIone. We was great, I finally had my own room and space physically and literally. I no longer had someone telling how to live. I could create it and make my own mistakes along the way. That was my first rite of passage I learned that education provided better options for a career. I saw my friends' parents, who did go to college, living a different sort of life than my parents did. When I got to college, I realized that I loved to learn, and I was surrounded by people who felt the same. I found my tribe. My psychology class opened my eyes-it was my favorite because it explained that people's belief systems are different. I had a great sociology professor who was white but spoke better Spanish then I did at the time because of his travels. At that point, I had only been to one other state. So I decided to study abroad in Jalisco, Mexico, and learned about my history and hung out with people from all parts of the world. I thrived in this environment, and I realized that I had to have a career that involved working with people.
I grew up really fast and had big responsibilities at a young age, like a lot of immigrant families do. I knew could accomplish a lot. I actually had to learn to relax and take a break. Let's just say I became more childlike in my 20s after I worked out all of my trauma with some therapy. I got to do the activities I missed out on as a child like sports and travel. I competed in fitness competition and travel a lot of the world. A lot of my older clients have become my mamas, and professional clients have become my project managers for business, house renovations, and community. So you see, where ever I went, I built a community around me of like-minded people who are continuing to grow and challenge themself on every level physically spiritually and mentally. Some of the situations that required me to ask for help were starting a new career, a new business, marriage and becoming an instant mom and wife at the same time, parenting a new born, starting a podcast! I took advice where I could get it- and when I didn't listen, I suffered- so I like to ask for help now! I also realized people like to help as well.
I most recently took a Chakra, Energy and Healing classes with some wonderful ladies that are now my tribe in personal growth arena. We remind each other to use the tools we learned these last 2 years. We can process life and keep each other from revert back to old patterns. We help each other integrate this stuff into our daily lives. The world doesn't always model accountability or responsibility. We created a community to hold space for each other without judgment so we stay committed ourselves. That way we can be free to be and create. Not blame and react. We can also spread that into other parts of the our other communities. In the process I learned a lot about financial freedom, and express our authenticity, voicing my feelings, concerns and needs. I learned why I love to create and service my communities. I also learned that unconditional love doesn't mean you are a door mat. Setting and having boundaries are important. I created what I didn't have as a child. I understand more about compassion and mercy. As one of my friends quoted, "The miracle of mercy is giving what you never got." It's also receiving and letting people show you love we all deserve.
So get rid of the extra pounds of our expectations or limiting beliefs and give what you want in return.
Gracias mi gente!
This is a light greek soup that combines simple ingredients that results in a refreshing meal or a great starter.
Calories: 201 kcal
2 tbsp olive oil separated
2 large chicken breasts cubed into bite-size chunks
1 medium onion, finely diced
2 large celery stalks, diced
4 garlic cloves, minced
4 cups chicken broth
Zest of one lemon
½ tsp salt
¼ tsp fresh cracked black pepper
1 bay leaf
1 large egg *see note
Juice of one lemon
Salt and pepper to taste
Fresh parsley, to garnish (optional)
1. Select the "saute" setting on the Instant Pot and let heat until the label reads "hot".
2. Add 1 tbsp olive oil then add the cubed chicken and saute until chicken is browned. Remove and set aside.
3. Add the other tbsp olive oil and add the onions and celery and saute for 2 minutes. Add the garlic and saute 1 minute longer.
4. Add the chicken back in and then add chicken broth, lemon zest, salt, pepper, and bay leaf. Press "cancel" on Instant Pot and turn off saute mode.
5. Cover and close the lid and make sure the vent on the lid is set to "sealing" position.
6. Select "manual" and set to 20 minutes.
7. Once time is up let the pressure come down naturally for 3 minutes and then carefully use the quick release method (QRM) to release any remaining pressure.
8. Whisk the egg in a medium bowl and then add the lemon juice and whisk until combined. Slowly pour ½ cup of broth into the egg and lemon mixture, mixing continuously.
9. Pour the egg mixture into the soup while stirring constantly.
10. Top with chopped parsley for serving. Or put it over brown rice and make it a meal.
*I use greek yogurt instead of the egg to make it richer.
*You can use two eggs if you would like a creamier/richer soup.
My sisters have been asking me about the benefits of the sauna ever since I made them sit in it with me after our polar bear plunge! Saunas have a long tradition, starting in Finland, where bathers expose themselves to temperatures from 175 to over 210 degrees F for the purpose of relaxation and pleasure. Studies have now been able to show the following health benefits linked to saunas (of course, if practiced safely):
Let's Hear it for Leg Raises!
You can get serious results from the humble leg raise. With so many ways to do them, you can work different muscles and sculpt some strong and beautiful legs.
In this video, I demonstrate over 10 variations on leg raises. You can do this with me in real-time. It only takes 16 minutes, but that will be enough for one day! Take your favorites with you. You don't need any equipment, or even a lot of room.
Join me in raising a leg - and then a glass - to your health! ;)
Back from the Bahamas... what now?
I recently went to the Bahamas to visit some friends my husband has known since college. They have been there for the past 2 years, living on their 45-foot, 4-bedroom catamaran. Before that, they were living out of a van in Latin America for over a year. After this trip, my second time visiting them, I came back a better human. Their life seems simple and complex at the same time. Simple because they have few possessions and live away from most of the commercialism, work schedules, and the "do! do! do!" American culture. Complex because they have to know how to sail and protect themselves from the storms, winds, and hurricanes that determine the flow of their lives.
I was surrounded by the beauty of nature from sunrise to sunset. I was shocked at how clear the full moon and canopy of stars were. I also have a healthy respect for the huge 5ft sting rays I saw from our hike and the sharks - a bit too close for comfort - cruising by in the beautiful clear blue water. It definitely inspired me to simplify my life here at home. Our friends compost as much as possible, hold on to their recycling until they get to port, and make their own water from the sea with their desalinator. Their electricity comes from the solar panels on their boat and they sail whenever possible to use less gas. They make many of their meals from scratch since provisions can be limited. We made homemade tortillas 2 nights in a row and didn't even go to any restaurants.
On this years' trip, I started paying attention to what materials come with the food and products I buy. Even the little tea bags I thought were 100% compostable were really only 90% compostable (meaning the other 10% was made from nylon and plastic). I was heart broken to see the beauty disrupted by all the garbage, plastic, and other abandoned items washed up on the shores of the smaller islands we visited along the way. It takes strength to acknowledge how we contribute to all of it. It gave me hope every time I picked up a piece of plastic, knowing that it would have otherwise disrupted the wildlife. Even small gestures like these add up, and I took what I learned home, knowing it will ripple forward to make a greater impact.
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